Like I wrote in my post about why the Holly-Daze suck – other people’s families are a pain in the ass at Christmas time. All the more so when that other person is someone you’re exchanging body fluids with.
Everyone wants to be happy at Christmas. Problem is you can’t make everyone happy. Sometimes you can’t make anyone happy. That’s known as “compromise”. We’ll take a look at compromise in a moment. First let’s have a vocabulary lesson.
Christmas Positive – People who love Christmas time. They decorate their homes. The ing carols. The listen to Christmas music. They host family wing-dings in their homes. They are all smiles and cheerful for a whole month. They want snow on Christmas morning.
Christmas Negative – People who bah-humbug their way through December. They expend extra effort to avoid all the things Christmas Positive people want to experience. Especially carols and snow.
When Compromise Doesn’t Work
One compromise which is popular would be the routine of spending Thanksgiving with one person’s family and Christmas with the other person’s family. You could start it off by flipping a coin to see who gets you for Christmas this year. After that you alternate. Problem is if both families are Christmas Positive that compromise is going to leave one family unhappy.
Another popular compromise is spending Christmas Eve with one family, Christmas day with the other. In your case the distance makes that a poor option. Unless someone in the family has a privet jet and each family lives near an airport that is. We’ll assume that’s not the case.
If it were me I’d hold a bidding war. Whichever family bribed us with the most paid expenses and benefits would win. But not everyone is an asshole like I am. You might not want to go that route. Or maybe you do. At least think about it. It’s the season for giving right? And to give someone has to receive. The receiver may as well be you.
Why Do You Have To Travel?
Many years ago a guy I worked with told me about his way of handling visiting his parents and hometown friends. He would go home to stay with his parents and instead of travelling to visit all these people who wanted him to come visit he let them know when he would be at home. Then he relaxed at home and waited for them to come to him.
Thus instead of driving around and trying to balance a schedule and not miss people and spend money on gas . . . they can come to him when it’s convenient for them. And if they didn’t want to see him bad enough to come to his house, no worries. Life goes on. He’s relaxing and enjoying his vacation. Which is what you’re suppose to be doing on a vacation.
And I’d suggest that “enjoying” is what you’re suppose to be doing at Christmas time. All the more so as you are both Christmas Positive.
Which brings up the question “Why do the two of you have to travel to your families?”
Both your families know where you live right? Tell ’em to buy a plane ticket and drive their asses to the airport. If they really-so-super-duper-badly-white-christmas-carol-singing-holiday-cheer wanna spend time with you on Christmas day they can make the sacrifice can’t they.
Sounds like a personal problem to me.
If it’s soooooooo important to them to be with you on Christmas day they will find a way to get to where you are. Building on that idea . . .
If You Can’t Make Everyone Happy . . .
. . . what if you make yourselves happy?
What if you spend Christmas with neither family?
I know. Blasphemy. I’m evil like that.
If you can’t decide which family to spend time with and they don’t want to come to you then stay home and start your own Christmas traditions without them. I grant you it may be difficult to sell this option to your parents and to yourselves. You’re all so Christmas Positive that causing any form of disagreement over Christmas may seem like the worst thing in the world.
I assure you it isn’t. For y’all Christmas Positive people the worst thing in the world is being unhappy at Christmas.