Dear Robyn and Skippy;
I am the kind of person that is the “go to” for support in my friendships. Any time a friend has a problem, they come to me for my words of wisdom and the fact that I tend to mother them (in a good way, not in a nagging way). I cheer them up and I really do enjoy being helpful, it’s just in my nature. I try to live the philosophy of “do unto others as you would have done to you.”
I am going through a hard time right now. I have family problems and medical problems (as well as every day problems such as money, work stress, etc..). My stress is building and becoming something that I am having a really hard time with. Its getting to the point to where I don’t want to get out of bed in the morning. I do though, I keep going and continue to stay as strong as I can through all the shit that is raining down on me. But I know that I need more support to keep going.
My problem is this: My friends are not being supportive. I try to turn to them for advice and comfort and I am not getting much in return. I see a therapist, but I want that closeness from my friends that I have always given to them. I want them to help me as I have helped them. I get a lot of this kind of statement “I know you are having a bad day today, but here is my problem that I need help with.” I can’t take much more of this. I don’t feel like I can call on any of my friends right now. The days that I don’t want to get out of bed, I would like to know that I can call them and find the support that I have ALWAYS given them.
What can I do? I am at my breaking point. How can I tell them that I need to stop getting bombarded with their problems because I have enough problems of my own without losing my friends OR just having them not talk to me at all?
At The End of My Last Nerve
Read Robyn’s response here: She Says: Time For Some Self Preservation
Read Skippy’s response here: He Says: Do Unto Others As They Deserve
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