Dear Dating and Doubting;
Here’s the problem with internet dating. Any woman who needs to use a website to find a man is broken. Maybe she’s ugly. Maybe she’s fat. Maybe she’s a bitch.
Maybe she’s a feminist.
But I repeat myself.
All a woman has to do in order to meet men is:
- Leave her house,
- put down the cell phone and
- be nice to people.
And yes, most women your age (as I’m guessing you are in your early 20s) are not capable of performing steps two and three. Thanks to video games and internet step one is also a challenge for many of them. This is because of the wonderful parenting they have received which has left them emotionally stunted and incapable of interacting with other humans unless a cell phone is involved.
Internet dating is like trying to meet girls at an insane asylum. The sex can be wild. Yet the potential for any form of long term normal (whatever normal is) relationship is zero. And yes I have and do use internet dating. Thanks for asking. Voice of experience.
You included a list of stumbling blocks which have become apparent to you.
“She doesn’t like video games, she’s not really into technology, doesn’t drink as much as I do and I think she wants something long term.”
Here is my question for you Dating and Doubting. And I’m very serious about this.
Why are you dating girls when you really want to date boys?
You found a girl, via internet dating no less, who doesn’t play video games, doesn’t obsess over technology, isn’t an alcoholic and wants more than a hook up followed by a walk of shame.
And this is a problem for you?
Send me her phone number. You’ve found a woman who isn’t trying to be a man. Have you any idea how difficult that is to do? I’ve been trying to find a girl who likes being a girl for years.
Girls aren’t very bright.
Girls are attracted to bad boys who fuck many women, have tattoos and piercings, use bad language all the fucking time, treat other people like shit, are unemployed, play computer games all day and are drunkards. They are attracted to these men because 99% of women can’t distinguish being dominate from being an asshole.
And I assure you that 100% of women are attracted to dominate men. Including the feminists.
Have you heard of Fifty Shades of Grey? Being fucked senseless by a rich man is what every girl, even the feminists, especially the feminists, desire more than anything else. Women want to be dominated. Socially and sexually. This is why girls thrive in corporate environments even as boys are making a mass exodus from cubicalville. Girls like having rules and control imposed on them by powerful men.
Girls seek to be dominated and will throw themselves at anything that looks able to fill the roll. Criminals. Soldiers. Police. CEOs. Billionaires. Musicians. Rappers. Drug dealers. Bloggers.
Okay. Not so much with the bloggers.
Back to girls not being very bright. Because girls are attracted to body mutilating, foul mouthed, video game playing drunkards they conclude that men are attracted to the same thing. They attempt to become that which they desire thinking it will attract that which they desire.
Certainly it does attract some boys.
The kind of boys who want to date girls who act like boys. Boys who want a drinking buddy to play video games with. Not boys who want to treat a girl like a girl.
I think you get the point. I should address your specific questions.
I don’t know that I am ready for that [something long term]. I mean I want something long term eventually, but I want it to start out in the “short term” range of things.
All relationships start out as short term. It may or may not last over time. You always start at day one and go forward. Don’t stress over “long term”. That will either happen or it will not. You only find out where the trail goes by walking it.
I feel like I may be over analyzing things. I should be way more into her than I am, I mean, we had a great date!
It’s not that you are over analysing. It’s more a matter of you are lying to yourself about who and what you are attracted to. Did I mention you should be dating boys?
Should I ask her out again or would that be leading her on?
No and yes it would. She is a girl. You want to date a boy. Or a feminist.
Are my expectations too high?
No. Simply misplaced. You are looking for a girl who acts like a boy. You need to either date boys or date feminists. To find the person you are looking for screen girls and boys for the following traits:
- Constant attention whoring on social media.
- Tattoo, facial piercings, and other forms of self mutilation.
- Excessive pet ownership. Especially rescue dogs and horses.
- Inability to go more than five minutes without looking at cell phone.
- Frequent use of bad language.
- History of multiple sex partners.
- Can be found in bars every Friday and Saturday night.
- Owns a video game console.
I think she is what I want but I just don’t know.