If your goal is to survive 2014 then you’ve already failed. For the rest of your life. You should be aspiring to something more than survival. Bacteria survive. People should flourish. Unless you are content to remain a bacteria here are some ideas for you to consider and adapt.
1. Don’t make new year’s resolutions.
They don’t work. The entire concept of new year’s resolutions has so much baggage attached to it that you are expected to fail. Therefore when you do fail no one will hold you accountable. Including yourself.
If you want lasting change in your life you have to change your actions. This is easier and harder than you think.
- Create a system of accountability that will work for you.
- Create a series of big accomplishments you want to tackle.
- Break them down into smaller chunks.
- Schedule those chunks.
- Do them.
2. Cultivate self-awareness.
What do you do with your time? What do you spend money on? How is your breathing and your posture? How are you dressed? How are you behaving towards others?
If you want to arrive at any destination you have to know where you are in order to chart a path. This is why I always ask the people who write in to Ask Us to consider what they have contributed to their situation.
If you know what you’re doing that doesn’t work for you then you can change it. If you don’t know you can’t fix it. If you know what you are doing that does work for you then you can do more of it or refine what you’re doing.
3. Use your time wisely.
You only have so much time to be alive. You shouldn’t be living every moment full speed ahead, grinding away at whatever you want to accomplish in life. You should be living in the moment and managing your time use. Don’t play video games all day. Play video games for a couple of hours once a week and really enjoy it. The rest of your week do other things.
Stop trying to multi-task. Human brains do not multi-task. Stop believing shit you see on the internet. You can effectively do one thing at a time. Do one thing at a time, be there with yourself while you are doing it, put all of your awareness into that task. The Buddhists figured out this thousands of years ago. Get with it.
4. Choose your friends wisely.
In selecting your friends and lovers do so wisely. Only those deserving should be allowed into your life. I’ve talked about psychic vampires more than once in the pages of Ask Us. Don’t put up with people who are not aligned with your values and people who take advantage of you.
If you decide you’re going to make some major changes in your world you may have to change your friends. Especially if you are growing and they are not. True friends will want you to improve and expand. Vampires will want you to remain small and vulnerable to them. Don’t be afraid to leave behind people who seek only to drag you down.
5. Stop being a victim.
It’s appealing to believe that you are helpless and all the bad things that happen to you are caused by someone else. Oddly enough I notice all victims want to take credit for the few positive accomplishments in their life. Either you earned it all or you earned none of it. You don’t get to pick and choose.
I know that being a victim is also a source of power for many of you. If you let go of your attachment to the need for power over other people you’ll be able to let go of your need to be a victim. Then you can start being a person and enjoy your existence.
Now get off the internet and accomplish something, do something, create something.
Questions? Comments? Counter-points? Leave ’em in the comments below.