Hello to our dear readers!
It is that time of year. Out with the old, in with the new and a time to celebrate all the good things that made up 2013.
One of the great things about this year is that Ask Us Fort Collins was born only 5 months ago on a hot August day. Skip and I are loving being a part of the Scoop Blog Network thanks to Kristin Mastre and her (not drunk) decision to take on this crazy blog! Her faith in two people who came up with the idea (while drinking) has paid off. Our blog is FABULOUS!
So, now I present to you the wildest and best of our blog from the She Said perspective! Drum roll please….
The most recent of my favorites would have to be the conundrum of Miserable in Marriage. We had a response from a reader who put her own perspective on the situation of bisexuality. Her comments were helpful to understanding one’s own sexuality and she was in a similar situation. She was adamant about how it is a struggle to be accepted when you define yourself as such. I love hearing from our readers and what they think about our responses. I do think that, in the end, it was a marriage problem and not a problem of sexuality. Marriage is probably the most wonderful and difficult thing that we face in the modern age of relationships. It is not a sacred as it used to be and requires a lot of work from both husband and wife. This selfish decision that her husband made to even ask such a question speaks volumes of his commitment level. Which is zero.
We had yet another head scratch-er from a recently married lady who didn’t feel like she was married. Newly Married and Confused was a classic case of “I demand the Hollywood illusion I bought into.” Nothing really changes when you get married, and it shouldn’t. The idea of happily ever after is something that Disney and various fairy tales thought up. My question is; what happens after the happy couple ride off into the sunset? Life. Life happens and sometimes its not pretty so you work through things together. That is what marriage really is, the promise that you will have each other through all the bad as well as the good. You must love your significant other at their worst as much as you do when they are at their best.
My favorites tend to fall into the realm of “romantic problems.”
This subject is something that is near and dear to me. I have had almost every type of relationship; from a religious freak to a drug addict, a body builder to a poet, a hunter to an actor, and so on and so forth. I like to draw on my knowledge of experiencing these different types of men and relationships to offer my humble advice. I was particularly fond of a question we had about romantic (as in flowers and sentimentality) incompatibility. Receiving Too Little was looking for a way that she and her boyfriend could speak the same love language. Love language is what every couple needs in order to maintain consistantcy in their relationship. Love language is what we need to nurture that part of ourselves that swoons at the thought of love and all it represents. If you are not on the same page with your love language, you’re gonna have a bad time. I hope that she showed him exactly what she needed from him. That is the only way to truly get what you want, no one has passed mind reading 101.
A shout out to Unsolicited Advice
I enjoy writing Unsolicited Advice, it is a welcome addition that keeps things interesting and up to date. Skippy and I put our heads together and come up with topics for this portion of our blog. My absolute favorite has got to be Parenting, You’re Doing it Wrong. The best part (or worst depending on how you look at it) is that we both witnessed this case of parenting gone wrong. We looked on, mouths agape, at two children running wild in a bar, sticking their hands in the buffet food and causing general calamity. What has happened to parenting? It is hard to say what is right and what is wrong and every situation is unique. This was obviously wrong. We don’t know if these parents let their children run wild all the time and I hope that they don’t. But, seriously, when you have a child you sign a contract saying you will do your best to raise them to be the best that they can be. It is not a trend nor something you do for status, it is a responsibility and should be treated as such.
It has been a good run so far for Ask Us and we hope that you will continue reading into the new year. We would love to hear from you to let us know how we are doing. Feedback is a good thing and don’t be afraid to be honest! Meanwhile, be good, or bad and write in to us. We have the advice you need! Here’s to next year! Cheers!